When Your Life is Touched by Cancer
The best path through cancer is different for each individual. A survivor of both breast and prostate cancers, Bob Riter addresses the issues that accompany a cancer diagnosis. His suggestions folow the cancer-patient experience, from initial diagnosis through treatment and posttreatment, with a special section devoted to supporting others with cancer.
Bob doesn't tell you what to do because each person's situation and values are unique. Rather, he helps you identify the most important issues and gives you the language to discuss these issues with your loved ones and your care team.
All royalties from the book are donated to the Cancer Resource Center of the Finger Lakes.
From When Your Life is Touched by Cancer:
The Post-Treatment Blahs
For many people the months following cancer treatment are more difficult than the treatment itself.
During treatment, your "job" is to be in treatment. You're busy with appointments and you see the same doctors and nurses almost every week. At the same time, friends bring you meals, family members take on extra duties, and you're left to focus on getting better.
Then you have your last radiation therapy treatment or chemotherapy session. You get hugs and congratulatory handshakes. There's an expectation that everything in your life will suddenly revert back to normal.
Let me pop that bubble: everything doesn't return to normal right away. Your body is tired. Your brain is muddled. You're worried that the cancer will come back. And you miss the safe cocoon of your chemo nurses and radiation therapists.
What makes it especially hard is that the people around you sometimes expect you to bounce back almost immediately. They expect you to be your old self.
The post-treatment blahs are so common that I try to prepare people for them in advance. This is what I suggest:
- Expect a post-treatment slump. Rather than being a time of celebration, the last treatment is sometimes the beginning of a funk. If you expect that funk, it won't be so difficult.
- Realize that recovery is not a straight line. You'll feel better one day but worse the next. That's normal.
- Expect to be acutely aware of every ache and pain and immediately think the worst. Every headache is a sign of a brain tumor.
- These worries become even more pronounced before doctor visits and tests. You scan your body for the slightest indication of anything bad.
- Realize that cancer will continue to be front and center in your life for several more months. This fades with time. The second year after treatment is much easier than the first year after treatment.
- Expect your family and friends to have less time to sit with you and listen to your concerns about living with cancer. They're eager to get back to normal as quickly as possible.
- There's a good chance that you're still processing what you've been through. Joining a support group or speaking with a therapist can be especially helpful during this transition phase.
Most of all, be patient with yourself. You're still healing.